OK – so you’ve left your old job. Or you’ve come to the end of therapy. Or training. Or you have moved house. Or left a relationship. Or it’s the end of the old year and the start of the new year. Now what?
Beginnings and endings. Both are intricately and intimately connected.
T S Eliot (in Little Gidding) wrote: “What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.”
Most of us stop there in remembering the quote, but Eliot continues later….
“………..We shall not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time. “
Each session of therapy or coaching; each morning and night; each breath in and out. These are all beginnings and endings.
So if beginnings and endings are so very constant in our lives, why do we often get so upset, fearful, panicked? How do we feel so challenged?
Beginnings and endings essentially are change, and the fear of change weighs heavy at different stages of life and different times of year; at our experience of different life events. And, of course, whether we have initiated the change or had it thrust upon us.
Beginnings and endings are the stuff of therapy rooms the world over.
Eliot’s quote almost sounds as though we are going round in circles though…”..the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started…”
But – and it’s a big but – even if we are at the “same” place, we face it with more experience than before. On our way there, we will have learned new things about ourselves and others; we will have had new experiences; seen and heard different things.
So I think of it more as a spiral rather than a circle. Each turn of the circle leads us into a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around.
Endings and beginnings.
What have you learned along the way to where you are right now?
What next for you?