A very good friend of mine is having a big “clear out”. She tells me that they are already on their third skip.
One of the benefits for me of her clear out was receiving a few days ago a little book entitled “Up the Garden Path”. It’s an anthology or verses about home and garden, and it’s delightful.
Having a clear out is a bold step to take. It brings up memories of past experiences, relationships, activities etc. It’s part of “closing the circle” – sending gifts to delight others, or perhaps returning things to rightful owners, or making space by directing stuff towards charity shops, sales, and skips.
It’s also about preparing for a new start, the next stage of life’s journey, and doing that free of the encumbrances of the past.
Therapy and training both include the processes of clearing out. It can be a big task, so it’s good to have a plan.
And a clear out needs a plan of action, a starting point, an order, a strategy and an end goal.
In therapy, clients don’t always come with a specific plan, but a vague end goal. The work is about finding the appropriate individual path through to the end.
Training needs a long-term plan and an online course may be the first step – a short term goal which is part of a much bigger strategy and a new career.
And for the journey through the clear out, the therapy, the training, “up the garden path” can be an essential part of the process. Recognising and acknowledging those past moments is an important part of moving on.
Up the garden path is hardly ever a trip to nowhere. Every part of the journey is important.
Whatever the situation, “up the garden path” is really only literally true if, like me, you have to take all your rubbish down the long track at the allotment site – but even that provides the opportunity of chatting to neighbours and finding new ideas, cuttings and help.
Going up the garden path is a means to get to the next place in life. Staying on it is not an option. So wherever the garden path is taking you, make your journey a good one.