I was in London in early April and walked over Westminster Bridge arm in arm with my daughter, on a very sunny day with the place filled with tourists. The juxtaposition of relaxation, enjoyment and pain was almost tangible. It fostered a sense of perspective and priorities.
How often do I get caught up in the small details of life and lose that sense of perspective with the bigger picture?
How often have I sat with clients stressed about what may seem insignificant issues for me?
It’s important to acknowledge that sometimes it is difficult to connect with a client’s issues if and when there are what feel like more significant issues in my own life or in the wider world.
But it’s necessary to stay with the feelings of the moment and engage with what a client presents.
And it’s also important to recognise that issues are very personal and impact in different measures on different people.
And sometimes a client will present with a story and experience that makes my own issues pale into total insignificance.
I think it’s essential at those times to be very present in that moment with the client. To be present in the bigger world issues, and yet also to acknowledge my relationship with personal issues.
And acknowledge that each of those experiences is part of life. Part of living and being human. Part of the experience of life and death.
And part of learning to work with everything that life throws at us.
Life and death and everything in between.