Month: September 2015 (page 1 of 3)

Why boundaries are so import.

Boundaries are very important, not just in therapy but in life in general.  In fact you may often find that some clients need therapy because they haven’t put any boundaries into place in their everyday life.

So maybe we need to first decide what a boundary is.  A boundary is quite simply you deciding on the physical, emotional and mental limits you are prepared to work to but not go beyond.

Why is this so important?

Well from a therapy perspective this is important because it allows you to clearly set out how you expect to be treated by your client, how sessions will run etc.  It also allows a client to know what is expected of them, how things will work, those behaviours that are acceptable and those that are not.  This offers clients a feeling of safety because rules have been set.

In everyday life – Well, ask yourself the last time you got frustrated when someone wanted you to do something you didn’t want to do, or you behaved in a certain way because you felt someone else wanted you to even though it went against your thoughts or believes?

Imagine now that this happens again and again.  How is that going to make you feel – stressed, unheard, irrelevant etc?

This is because you didn’t set your boundaries, you didn’t tell people what you were prepared to put up with and what you weren’t.

This often then leads to people lacking in confidence, or self esteem because they begin to believe that if everyone else treats them like this, that they must in fact be worthless or useless.   The longer this goes on, often the harder people find it to start setting boundaries because they are essentially afraid of others reactions if they suddenly say no.

Boundaries are so important, if for no other reason than it shows us that we value ourselves.


From Chrysalis Courses Student to Tutor

My journey as a trainee through to therapist and tutor began when I started training with Chrysalis Courses in 2008. Having worked in the NHS and with a psychology background I was used to working with people in a variety of ways, but what I wanted was to work therapeutically with people on a 1:1 basis; which led me to start this course as it would provide me with that skill. I signed up for the 3 year Advanced Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy, with the knowledge that at the end I would be a professionally qualified therapist. I also liked the fact that it was held in the weekends so I could attend without much disruption to my day job or my personal life.

I remember feeling nervous on my way to the first class of the first module, with the usual thoughts going through my mind of not knowing what to expect, how the tutor would be and how many other students would be on the course. Hypnotherapy was something that I was unfamiliar with at that stage but was open to learning a new therapy to add to my skillset. By the end of the first day I felt better, the nervousness had settled and I had made new friends, feeling encouraged and motivated to work through the course.

During the rest of the course, certain topics were easy to grasp and some took a bit more time, and on the whole the tutors were supportive and understanding of this throughout the learning process. As I attended each class, engaged with others, addressing the topics taught, I noticed that as a person I was changing, which felt unusual at first but became more natural as the course went on. I also noticed my relationships with family and friends changing and their attitudes towards me, some slight, some drastic, and now on reflection I think for the greater good! After all it has helped me understand myself as well as others.

After my first year I started working with clients on and off as I still had my day job that took up most of my time. Initially I worked out of a room of mine, which I decorated in my style of what a “therapy room” should look like. I was anxious about working with my first “proper” client but it all went well which boosted my confidence levels.

After completing the 3 years of training, I decided to leave my day job and focus on working as a full-time therapist. I knew I was going to be taking a big risk but ultimately would be worth it, as it was something I had become passionate about.

As I left full-time employment to become self-employed, I became more aware of my responsibilities as a therapist and business person. So many things to think of, appropriate pricing of sessions, advertising, how to present myself, thinking of self-care as a therapist, a checklist of CPDs (Continuous Professional Development), supervision, financial security, self-employment tax, having time for a personal life, and the list goes on! One of the things I remember is that I wasn’t too good with taking money from clients at first, I felt uneasy, but soon I learned that I was running a business just like any other business person and charging money for my services was normal.

After practicing for a while I started to get a feel of which areas I would like to specialise in, therefore I decided to undergo further training in areas such as couples counselling, weight management, psychosexual dysfunctions, etc. This enabled me to deepen my knowledge in these fields, network with other therapists, and also expand my therapeutic practice.

So far, I have worked with the NHS and been a volunteer counsellor for MIND. I also have held seminars, delivered talks on certain topics to groups and organisations and have been on

BBC Radio Cambridgeshire talking about Hypnotherapy. All these have been very beneficial experiences to me as a therapist.

Training with Chrysalis Courses was a life changing experience for me, on a professional basis as well as on a personal journey and it has made me into the person I am today, a better, happier version of what I was. After 7 years of hard work, dedication, and perseverance, I now have successful practices in Cambridge and Canary Wharf. I love my job; I enjoy what I do and cannot think of being in any other profession. It has been worth the risk that I took many years ago and now being a Chrysalis Courses tutor for Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills adds to my growing portfolio as a therapist. It gives me great pleasure to be delivering the course that once began my journey as a therapist. I look forward to where this journey will lead me…

Teen Film Highlights Mental Health Issues

Chrysalis Not For Profit has learned that a Leeds-based teenage director has spoken out on his latest project; a “gritty” production which sheds some much needed light on teenage mental health issues.

Teenage mental health

During the years between childhood and adulthood, many people face a new challenges that can lead to the development of mental health conditions such as stress and depression. Statistics gathered by Young Minds, a UK children’s mental health charity, indicate that one in ten people aged 5-16 have a mental health condition. Meanwhile, more than half of adults with mental health conditions were diagnosed in childhood.

Beneath the Shadows

Therefore teenage mental health is a serious issue in the UK; one which 18 year old film-maker Gage Oxley from Whinmoor, Leeds, sought to highlight in his new production Beneath the Shadows. The Yorkshire Evening Post reported that Gage’s production company Six° Films completed the project this year, and its trailer has already collected more than 2,000 views on YouTube.

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More Employees Are Reporting Mental Health Issues

A new poll has indicated to Chrysalis Not For Profit that the number of UK employees who are reporting mental health issues at work is on the rise.

Work and stress

As Chrysalis Not For Profit has reported several times, there’s a clear link between work and stress. A survey of 2,000 people carried out by Mind, a UK-based health charity, showed work is the most stressful factor in the lives of 34% of UK employees. 19% admitted that they’ve taken a day off work due to stress, whilst the same number said they couldn’t tell their boss that they’re overly stressed.

work and stress

A survey carried out by Mind, showed work is the most stressful factor in the lives of 34% of UK employees.

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First Men’s Mental Health Centre Opened in UK

New reports have shown Chrysalis Not For Profit that a mental health charity has recently opened the UK’s first mental health centre for men in Burton upon Trent.

Mens mental health

There’s evidence to suggest that men across the world face serious mental health issues. Figures from the World Health Organisation indicate that 510,000 men die as a result of suicide around the planet every year; one man every minute.

Stephen Buckley, from mental health charity Mind, shed light on the issue to BBC Newsbeat. He noted: “Suicide is the biggest killer of men under the age of 45 and, overall, men account for three-quarters of all suicides. Men talk less about their problems than women do, and instead might watch TV, play sport, or drink as a way of coping.”


Studies suggest that men across the world face serious mental health issues

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